Likewise, dominance has its own joys from getting to direct all the action to taking care of a partner in new and interesting ways.” “Often, the submissive person receives lots of attention from the dominant person. Lori Beth Bisbey, a clinical psychologist and sex and intimacy coach, tells Bustle. “Submission can allow freedom because in handing over control, you can stay focused on receiving and the stress of decision-making is gone,” Dr. It’s exciting to play around with the power dynamic of dominance and submission - not to mention, there’s something so hot about lying back while your partner takes full control. If you’re used to taking control during sex, it might be fun to switch things up on occasion and try out a few submissive positions, just to see how it feels.